Did you ever think you were overweight growing up–like you were fat and all your friends were thin?

And then, you look back at old pictures of yourself and think, “Wow, I really wasn’t fat at all! I wish I could go back in time and tell myself not to be so hard on myself.”

This happened to many of us who are children of the skinny-mini 70’s, where stick thin was “the look”. 

Michele shares her weight story, her struggles with losing weight at an early age, and how she turned all the pain and failure over the past into success by shifting her mind.

Now, Michele has already released more than 35 pounds just in the last few months, and she is on her way to release more.

Come on in to the Thin Thinking Podcast and get inspired by Michele and her compelling weight release journey.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Michele’s weight loss story and all the diets she tried in the past.

How children and teenagers in the 60’s and 70’s were forced to lose weight.

What pushed Michele to finally do the shift.

Links Mentioned in this Episode

If you’ve ever looked back at an old photo and thought, “I wasn’t even fat… why did I hate my body so much?” you’re going to see yourself in Michele’s weight loss success story.

Michele grew up in the 60s and 70s, long before “body positivity” was a thing. Thin was the standard. If you weren’t thin, you were “the fat kid.” From school nurses calling her out for weighing “too much,” to joining Weight Watchers in middle school, her relationship with her body started with shame, not support.

Like many of us, Michele didn’t lack diet knowledge. She knew calories, points, carbs, and every “plan” out there. What she didn’t have was a success mindset for weight loss — the kind that lets you lead yourself, instead of being led by old beliefs and diet drama.

In this article, I’m going to walk you through how Michele released 35 pounds (and counting) not by finding the “perfect diet,” but by shifting her mind with hypnosis, brain-based tools, and a completely different way of seeing herself.

You’ll learn the mindset shifts she made, how she navigated holidays and family dinners, and how she went from “I’ve struggled all my life” to “I finally feel confident I can keep going.”


1. How did Michele’s weight struggle begin so early in life?

Michele’s story shows that weight struggle often starts long before the first diet — it starts with how we’re treated as kids.

She remembers being overweight “all her life”. Even when she wasn’t medically obese, she felt like the “fat one.” In elementary school, the nurse weighed every child once a year. Then, in front of an entire class of 40 kids, a small group would be called out to go to the office because they were outside the “accepted weight range.”

Michele was always in that group.

Some classmates snickered. The nurse gave the same shallow lecture every year: “Exercise more. Don’t eat ice cream every day.” Michele sat there thinking, “I don’t eat ice cream every day. Why does she assume that?” Then she’d be handed a diet sheet an 8-year-old would have no idea how to follow.

She felt ashamed and alone. She didn’t even tell her parents, because in her mind, her weight was already something to hide.

At home, there was constant soda (“We drank it like water,” she says) and plenty of Italian comfort food — pasta, bread, hearty meals. She was active like any other kid, riding her bike and playing games, but the message from school and culture was loud and clear: “You are a problem to fix.”

By middle school, she’d internalized this so deeply that her solution was dieting, not self-care. In 7th or 8th grade, she joined Weight Watchers for the first time and lost 25–30 pounds the summer before high school.

The weight came off… but the shame, fear, and obsession stayed.


2. Why didn’t decades of dieting finally solve her weight problem?

Michele’s experience proves a hard truth: you can be an expert at dieting and still struggle with your weight.

Throughout high school, she kept her weight in what most charts would call a “reasonable” range — around 150–160 pounds, wearing a size 14. But it didn’t feel reasonable to her. It felt like a constant, exhausting job.

She remembers watching thinner friends walk around school with donuts in their hands while she barely ate just to maintain. She would never dare to eat a donut in public — especially not in front of people who might be silently judging her body.

Her dieting pattern continued into adulthood:

  • She joined Weight Watchers multiple times, including before her wedding, where she lost about 30 pounds to fit into her dress.
  • She gained 8 pounds in one week on her honeymoon in Hawaii — something her logical brain knows wasn’t 8 pounds of fat, but it still felt like proof she “couldn’t trust herself” with food.
  • She tried the old-school Atkins diet: bacon, eggs, heavy cream, steak — the extreme version that left her feeling awful and even more disconnected from her body.

On top of that came real life:

  • She married her high school sweetheart.
  • She had five children, including two sets of twins.
  • With pregnancies, postpartum, and eventually a full-time job once the kids were in school, her needs slid to the bottom of the list.

Weight control was always there in the background — but never in a sustainable way. She would lose some, regain some, and carry the constant belief:

“I can lose weight. I just can’t keep it off.”

Diet culture taught her a false story: if she regained weight, she had “failed.” No one ever taught her that maintenance is a different skill set and that lifelong weight mastery means living differently, not white-knuckling a “goal” and then going back to old habits.

In Michele’s words, traditional dieting made her feel “almost doomed to fail.”


3. What made Michele decide to try weight loss hypnosis and Shift?

Michele didn’t come to hypnosis because she believed in magic. She came because she knew diets weren’t the answer anymore.

She discovered the Shift Weight Mastery Process when a friend posted a link on Facebook to my free introductory webinar. The friend didn’t send it “at” her — it was just a general post. Michele quietly signed up, not even telling her friend, because:

  • If it turned out to be another gimmick, she didn’t want to explain herself.
  • She was curious but cautious; after a lifetime of diets, that’s understandable.

During the webinar, what caught her attention was not a promise of “effortless weight loss,” but the idea that 80% of our weight struggle is mental — and that the real work is learning to work with your mind.

When she heard hypnosis was involved, her first thought was very human:

“Maybe the hypnosis will trick my body into losing weight and I won’t really have to do anything.”

But very quickly, she realized that’s not what Shift is about.

Hypnosis in the Shift process is:

  • A way to focus your attention on your true goals.
  • A tool to turn down the noise of old beliefs and self-criticism.
  • A gentle, brain-based method to help you rehearse new habits and identities so they feel more natural.

As Michele surrendered to the process, she didn’t feel “out of control.” She actually felt more in control — more aware, more engaged, and more able to pause and choose on purpose.

That sense of “I’m actually leading my brain now” was what made her commit to the Fall 2022 Shift group.


4. How did Michele’s mindset change during the first 30 days?

The first 30 days of Shift are designed to feel different from a diet — and Michele felt that right away.

Instead of just getting a food list and a weigh-in schedule, she stepped into an immersive environment:

  • Daily emails and coaching prompts
  • Hypnosis sessions
  • Meditations
  • A supportive online community
  • Live interaction and guidance

She was pleasantly surprised by how personally involved I was as a coach. It didn’t feel like a faceless, automated program. It felt like a real relationship and a real apprenticeship in weight mastery.

The biggest mental shift for Michele was how we approached calories and energy.

At first, she reacted like many people:

“Oh no, not calories.”

Diet culture had turned calorie awareness into punishment. But inside Shift, we reframed it as data — not drama.

Michele started to see herself not as “a dieter” but as an inner scientist:

  • She learned approximately how many calories she needed to lose, maintain, or gain.
  • She started using that knowledge to plan consciously, instead of reacting and then feeling guilty.

For example, on Christmas, instead of trying to be “perfect” or giving up entirely, she decided:

  • “Maintenance calories for me are about 2,000 per day.”
  • “I’m going to eat around 2,000 calories today, enjoy the holiday, and simply maintain.”

That one decision took away the guilt. She wasn’t “being bad.” She was making a conscious choice in the context of her long-term journey, knowing she’d go back into a weight-release range afterward.

This was a huge mindset upgrade:

“I’m in the driver’s seat. I can choose how fast I release weight. I’m not at the mercy of the scale or the rules.”

Rather than being about restriction, the first 30 days became about mental freedom, self-respect, and clarity.


5. How did she lose 35 pounds while still enjoying holidays and family food?

A big part of Michele’s weight loss success story is that she did not put her life on hold to lose weight. She learned to live.

Here’s the key idea she embraced:

You can absolutely enjoy food and special occasions — you just can’t keep eating the way you used to if you want different results.

So instead of all-or-nothing thinking, she used new tools:

  • Planned indulgences:
    On days like Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s, and her children’s birthdays, she decided ahead of time how she wanted to eat. Some days were for losing; some days were for maintaining. No shame, just strategy.
  • Portion awareness without deprivation:
    At a recent birthday dinner for her daughter, the restaurant served everyone a large slice of cake. Old Michele would have thought, “If I’m having cake, I might as well eat all of it.”
    New Michele looked at the slice, cut it in half, savored her portion, and simply pushed the rest away — feeling satisfied, not deprived.
  • Releasing food guilt:
    Because she understood her overall weekly and monthly energy needs, enjoying a slice of cake or a special meal didn’t send her into a spiral of shame and “starting over Monday.”

This is the real power of a success mindset:
You stop giving food all the power and start reclaiming your own.

In her own words:

“Nothing is absolute. You think, ‘I could never have a piece of cake until I lose 45 pounds.’ Well, yes you can. Don’t give the food so much power. You’re the one with the power.”

That mindset has allowed Michele to release around 35 pounds so far — and still fully enjoy the birthdays, holidays, and family gatherings that make her life rich.


6. How did exercise and daily habits become “just what she does”?

One of the most impressive parts of Michele’s journey is her consistency with movement.

Before Shift, exercise was something she “should” do — like an item on a to-do list that never quite stuck. After Shift, it became part of her identity:

“I’m someone who moves my body every day.”

Here’s what changed:

  • She chose a simple, realistic habit: one hour on the exercise bike every morning.
  • She stacked it with things she enjoyed: reading the news, watching TV, or listening to a podcast or hypnosis session.
  • She didn’t treat it like punishment. It was her time — a daily act of self-leadership and self-care.

Since December (minus one week when she had COVID), she hasn’t missed a day. She doesn’t argue with herself about it; she just gets up and does it.

As she puts it:

“Even on days when I think I’m not going to want to exercise, I exercise. It’s just what I do when I get up in the morning.”

This is what we mean by rewiring your brain: you’re not forcing yourself with willpower forever. You’re building a habit loop that feels automatic and aligned with who you want to be.


7. How does Michele handle family, restaurants, and social pressure now?

Michele’s life is full — five children, grandchildren, a long marriage, and plenty of social events. Many people in her situation feel trapped by other people’s expectations around food.

Michele decided to see her environment as something she can lead, not just survive.

Here’s what that looks like:

  • She’s the cook in the house.
    She makes one meal, not a separate “diet meal” for herself and “normal food” for everyone else. She experiments, lightens up recipes, and finds ways to make meals both satisfying and supportive of her goals.
  • Her family is supportive.
    No one pushes food on her or complains about the way she cooks. They enjoy the meals, and many of them are benefiting from healthier eating, whether they’re focused on weight or not.
  • She chooses the restaurants.
    When her family goes out, she looks at menus ahead of time and picks places where she can find something that fits her plan. Her family trusts her choices — they’ve always let her pick.
  • She receives compliments without shrinking.
    Friends and relatives are noticing. At a recent gathering, her husband’s aunt looked at her and said, “Wow, what have you done? You look wonderful.”
    Michele doesn’t hide from this attention or downplay it. She allows herself to feel proud, to own her progress, and to stay motivated.

She’s also aware that her example is powerful. Her children and grandchildren are watching a woman who:

  • Takes care of herself
  • Exercises daily
  • Sets boundaries with food
  • Enjoys celebrations without going into extremes

That’s a legacy that goes way beyond the number on the scale.


8. What can you learn from Michele if you’re just starting your own journey?

Michele’s weight loss success story isn’t about perfection. It’s about progress, mindset, and inner leadership.

Here are the biggest takeaways you can apply right now:

  1. Your struggle likely didn’t start with food — it started with shame.
    Early experiences, like being weighed in front of classmates or being labeled “the fat one,” leave deep mental grooves. Healing doesn’t come from another diet; it comes from changing the story you’re telling yourself.
  2. You don’t need more diet rules. You need a success mindset.
    Michele already knew all the “plans.” What she needed was a way to:
    • Calm the inner critic
    • Build self-trust
    • Stop making the scale the judge and jury of her worth
  3. Hypnosis isn’t magic — but it can feel magical when it helps everything click.
    Used properly, hypnosis helps you focus, rehearse new habits, and connect to your future self. It doesn’t “do it for you,” but it helps you finally feel like you’re on your own side.
  4. Data, not drama.
    Understanding your energy needs (calories) doesn’t have to be punishment. It can be a tool for freedom—so you can plan a holiday meal, enjoy it, and still feel on track overall.
  5. You can enjoy your life and lose weight.
    Michele still celebrates birthdays, holidays, and dinners out. The difference is that she plans ahead, eats mindfully, and stops when she’s had enough. No more “I blew it, so I might as well keep going.”
  6. Consistency comes from identity, not willpower.
    Michele doesn’t think “Should I exercise today?” She is someone who exercises every day. That identity shift is what makes habits stick.
  7. You are more powerful than any food.
    Perhaps Michele’s favorite lesson is this:
    “Don’t give the food so much power. You’re the one with the power.”

If you’re ready to stop starting over, this is the kind of inner work that changes everything.

If Michele’s transformation inspires you, you may also find Thin Thinking Episode 68 — Identity Shifting for Weight Mastery — extremely supportive, since it dives deeper into the mindset and identity work that makes long-term change possible.


FAQ: Your Questions About Michele’s Success Mindset

1. How did Michele finally start losing weight after so many failed diets?

Michele stopped chasing the “perfect” diet and started working on her mindset. Through the Shift Weight Mastery Process and hypnosis, she learned how her brain was wired around food, shame, and all-or-nothing thinking. Once she began using tools like planning, self-compassion, and mental rehearsal, the weight started to release consistently — about 35 pounds so far.

2. What role did hypnosis play in her weight loss success story?

Hypnosis helped Michele focus her attention, calm her inner critic, and connect more deeply with her long-term goals. Instead of trying to “white-knuckle” her way through change, she used hypnosis to rehearse being her future, healthier self. It didn’t magically melt the weight, but it made it much easier to follow through on the actions that did.

3. Did Michele have to give up cake, pasta, or family favorites?

No. Michele still eats foods she loves — including birthday cake and Italian dishes — but in planned, mindful ways. She often chooses maintenance calories on special occasions, enjoys a reasonable portion, and then goes back to her weight-release plan. This allows her to participate fully in life without losing momentum.

4. How did she stay consistent with exercise?

She made exercise part of her morning identity: wake up, get on the bike for an hour, and pair it with something enjoyable (news, TV, or a podcast). She doesn’t negotiate with herself about it; it’s simply what she does, like brushing her teeth. That routine has carried her through months of daily movement, minus one week when she had COVID.

5. What if my family isn’t as supportive as Michele’s?

Even if your family isn’t as naturally supportive, you can borrow Michele’s mindset:

  • Take the lead on meals when possible.
  • Choose restaurants where you can find something that fits your plan.
  • Communicate your goals calmly and clearly.
  • Remember: you don’t need everyone’s full understanding to take care of yourself.

6. Is this approach only for people who like tracking calories?

No. The key is awareness, not perfection. For Michele, learning her calorie ranges helped her feel empowered. For you, it might be tracking portions, hunger levels, or simple “on-plan / off-plan” choices. The goal is to step into leadership over your habits, not obsess over every number.

7. How can I start building a success mindset like Michele’s?

Begin with small, doable steps:

  • Pick one daily habit (like a short walk) and commit to it.
  • Plan one meal a day instead of deciding in the moment.

Notice your inner dialogue and gently shift it from “I blew it” to “What can I learn?”
If you’d like guided support, you can explore hypnosis-based weight mastery programs or join one of my free masterclasses on breaking the weight struggle cycle.

Want to learn more? Check out my free masterclass, How to Stop The “Start Over Tomorrow” Weight Struggle Cycle and Start Releasing Weight For Good.

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Rita Black: Did you ever think you were overweight growing up? Like you were fat and all your friends were thin? And then you look back at old pictures and think, wow, I really wasn’t fat at all. I wish I could go back in time and tell myself that.

Rita Black: This happened to many of us who are children of the skinny mini 70’s where stick thin was the look. And if you didn’t fit in, you were fat. Today, Michele Acerra is our guest. She grew up in the 60’s and the 70’s and was exposed to a lot of limiting beliefs like a lot of us. And a lot of us went on diets before we were even teenagers and began a life of going from one diet to the next. Michele shares her weight story with us today and how she turned all the pain and failure over the past into success by shifting her mind. She has released 35 pounds in the last few months, but a ton of limiting beliefs and self-criticism. So come on in and join us and hear Michele ‘s inspiring story on the Thin Thinking Podcast.

Rita Black: Did you know that our struggle with weight doesn’t start with the food on your plate or get fixed in the gym? 80% of our weight struggle is mental. That’s right. The key to unlocking long-term weight release and management begins in your mind. Hi there, I’m Rita Black. I’m a clinical hypnotherapist weight loss expert, best-selling author, and the creator of the Shift Weight Mastery Process. And not only have I helped thousands of people over the past 20 years achieved long-term weight mastery, I am also a former weight struggler, carb addict and binge eater. And after two decades of failed diets and fad weight loss programs, I lost 40 pounds with the help of hypnosis. Not only did I release all that weight, I have kept it off for 25 years. Enter the Thin Thinking Podcast where you too will learn how to remove the mental roadblocks that keep you struggling. I’ll give you the thin thinking tools, skills and insights to help you develop the mindset you need, not only to achieve your ideal weight, but to stay there long term and live your best life.

Rita Black: Hey there, come on in. I have a question for you. How many times have you joined Weight Watchers? I’m just laughing. Nothing against Weight Watchers, but growing up, Weight Watchers was just like the go-to right when you had gotten out of control. Going back to Weight Watchers, I remember the little white folder. Remember if those of you who went back in the early days of Weight Watchers or well, in the 70’s and 80’s and there was this little white foldable folder before they went digital and everyday, every time a week, you would go in and you would get weight in and they would put your weight on the card. I went to Weight Watchers twice in high school, once when I was 15 and once when I was 17. And I remember this really clearly because it’s cold in Seattle, especially in the winter.

Rita Black: It’s not as cold as some places, but it’s pretty darn cold. And I would get weighed in every week on a Thursday and I was weighing in in the evening. And so I starved myself all day long. And I remember wearing really light summer pants, and a light t-shirt and hardly anything else to go get weighed in, even in the dead of winter. And of course, in order to sustain myself through starving myself in order to weigh less on the scale, I would eat a couple of Snicker bars cause they didn’t weigh that much. Now there’s so many diets to go on and off, and that’s why it’s even more important for you to come to my free upcoming free masterclass that I want you to attend. Wednesday the 26th of April, 2023, I am hosting this masterclass called How to Break Through the Weight Struggle Cycle So That You Can Release Weight Consistently and Permanently.

Rita Black: We all know how to lose weight. We’ve been Weight Watchers. It’s not about that though. You know how to lose weight. We know how, what to eat, how to exercise, but really what’s driving our habits and our beliefs is in our mind. And we need to learn to work with our mind effectively. And in this masterclass, I am gonna show you some really powerful shifts that you can make immediately to start getting some traction moving forward and getting consistency so you can feel empowered and break through that old struggle cycle and feel successful. Now, if you’re hearing this past the date of April 26th, 2023, fear or not, there is always something in the show notes there for you, some sort of free, wonderful offer that you can take advantage of. So whether it’s before April 26th or after, please go to the show notes and please sign up. I look forward to seeing you in the masterclass.

Rita Black: And now I’d like to introduce you to Michele , who is currently in my membership. She’s a graduate of the Fall 2022 Shift and she has released 35 pounds so far, but so much more than that, I think you’re gonna find her story very is inspiring. So let’s get started. Hello Michele and welcome to the Thin Thinking Podcast. We are so happy you are here today.

Michele Acerra: Happy to be here, Rita.

Rita Black: Thank you. I’m a little out of breath. Michele and I were laughing because we were both, she has to, she closed her door too because of her granddaughter and I had my dog, and we were like, okay, we need to get rid of all distracting factors before we start this interview. So, Michele ‘s here to discuss her journey, her weight release journey. It’s been an inspiring journey to watch and have you beyond cause you’ve gone through so many amazing mental shifts, Michele . But before we dive into that part of the journey, I would love for you just to share with us, you know, some of your earlier life and how you struggled because you started struggling pretty early on, right?

Michele Acerra: Oh, yes. I’ve been overweight all my life since a child. I can never remember not being overweight or thinking about my weight. Even at the times when I was somewhat thinner, I was worrying about gaining weight back or thinking I was heavier than I was. I look at pictures of myself sometimes when I was 16 or 17 and I thought I was so fat and I was, you know, a little on the chunky side, but I wasn’t severely overweight at that point. You know? Even when I was seven or eight years old, I can remember being in school and every year the nurse would weigh and measure all the children and then they would call down to the office everyone who was outside of the accepted weight range, I guess. And, you know, back then, it was in the 60’s, there weren’t as many overweight children then that I can remember in a class of 40.

Michele Acerra: Maybe there were five or six of us. And of course when we all got up at the same time and left, everyone knew why. And, you know, some kids would be snickering, not all, but some, and then we’d get a lecture from the nurse about how, you know, we should exercise more, don’t eat ice cream everyday. And I, and I can remember thinking, I don’t need ice cream everyday. Why does she think that? And being handed a sheet for a diet that, you know, an eight or nine year old wouldn’t even know where to begin. You know?

Rita Black: Did they ever talk to your parents about that? Like, did they ever –

Michele Acerra: No.

Rita Black: But they were just sort of like shaming you and saying, you know, you’re not, you need to behave and here’s a diet.

Michele Acerra: No, I never told my parents about it. I felt ashamed of being overweight even at the age of eight or nine or 10, knowing that I was overweight. And I didn’t really know what to do about it at that age. I mean, I was, as an activist, any other child, I rode my bike, I’d play games. But I do remember we drank a lot of soda back then. We drank soda, like it was water, it was always soda in the house. And of course, Italian food, you know, pasta. But by the time I got to high school, seventh, eighth grade, then I wanted to go on a diet. And I think I was in the seventh grade or eighth grade when I joined Weight Watchers for the first time. And the summer before high school, I lost probably 25 or 30 pounds with a friend.

Michele Acerra: We both went to Weight Watchers and, you know, high school. I did manage to keep my weight in a more reasonable range, like say 150 pounds to 160 pounds where I was wearing a size 14, let’s say. And I didn’t eat a lot. I remember eating very little to stay that weight. I remember thinking I ate a lot less than everyone else, people that were thinner than me. I had friends that were walking around with a donut in their hand in school. And I would be a fool to put a donut in my mouth, especially in front of someone else. But that was high school. And then, you know I met a guy when I was in high school who I actually married. We met when we were a junior and a senior in high school. We’re still married. We’re gonna be married 47 years this year.

Rita Black: Oh, congratulations.

Michele Acerra: Thank you. We went to the senior –

Rita Black: I didn’t know you met your husband in high school. That’s so sweet.

Michele Acerra: I did. I met my husband in high school and I wanted to get married, so I didn’t go right to college. I went to a college level secretarial course, got a job at the United Nations. That was my first job. And I remember tasting a lot of different foods there, croissants when no one else was eating croissants. We had croissants in the cafeteria. Scottish shortbread cause they had a whole, you know, and I put some weight on eating all that stuff that I had never tasted before. And then the wedding was coming around when I was 21. And then I had to go on a diet again. So I joined Weight Watchers and, you know, there were many Weight Watchers, the experiences in between there, that seemed to be my diet of choice, Weight Watchers. And I’m not knocking Weight Watchers. It does work. It’s it’s rooted in science. You know? They might say you’re not counting calories, but they’re counting them for you so..

Rita Black: Yeah, I mean, I think it’s gotten a little wacky. I mean like, I don’t know. We don’t need to talk about Weight Watchers or their brand or anything like that, but it’s, I think it’s a lot different than it was back in the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s, the way they approached their approach. Yeah. But, so you went back to Weight Watchers and did you release some weight for your wedding?

Michele Acerra: I did lose weight for the wedding, yes. I joined I believe in January. I got married in August. I lost about 30 pounds, I think to get into that wedding dress, you know, and went to Hawaii for a week and I gained eight pounds in Hawaii in a week. I know you say it’s not possible that I actually gained eight pounds of fat and I know that. Like I said, it’s been a lifelong struggle. And then the pregnancy come along and you gain weight with the pregnancies. And over the years I developed a very, you know, a very big weight problem. I had two sets of twins, as, you know, put on weight with those and each pregnancy put on a few more pounds. And then after the pregnancy I would lose some of it and go back and forth. And with five children and ultimately a full-time job once when they all went to school, weight control was sort of on the back burner.

Rita Black: Yeah. And it is for a lot of moms. The, I, it just, the demands of raising a family. We are so programmed to put our needs at the bottom of everybody else’s as a mom. And I couldn’t even imagine having five children, let alone two sets of twins. One set of girls and one set of boys. Correct? Yeah. And all of varying ages. Right? They were very spaced apart. I don’t know how you did it, Michele. I’m in awe.

Rita Black: So but so then over that time when you, you know, as you struggled, were you, it sounds like you kind of checked out, you weren’t trying to release weight at that point, then you got to a point where you decided, okay, right, I’ve gotta kind of take care of things. And were you kind of going from diet to diet to diet? Or were you just trying to lose the weight yourself? Like how did it continue on?

Michele Acerra: Weight Watcher was the most prevalent one for me. But I can remember doing Atkins back in the days when Atkins was really extreme, when, you know, you ate bacon and eggs and butter and heavy cream in your coffee, steak. Oh, what a horrible diet that one.

Rita Black: Yeah. I know. I think I ask like, what are the silliest diets you’ve been on? And you mentioned that that was like one of yours.

Michele Acerra: That was the only one that I think was very inadvisable. It’s the only way I could put it. I remember I felt awful on that diet.

Rita Black: Yeah, yeah.

Michele Acerra: But I’ve tried other ones. You know, they’re all variations on a theme. Don’t eat this, you can’t eat that. But Atkins to me was the most extreme.

Rita Black: Right. Well, how do you feel like, you know, given the fact that you have spent a good part of your life, man, you know, trying to manage your weight, where do you think the diet industry has it wrong? Like where do you feel like, you know, how does dieting impact your relationship with yourself? You know what I mean? Like, I think –

Michele Acerra: You’re almost doomed to fail. Everyone can lose weight. Everyone can’t get down as far as they wanna get down to. And then you’re made to fail if you don’t, you know, if you, if you can’t get down to a predetermined weight and you feel like you failed, if you can’t keep the weight off, you feel like you’ve failed. And it is very difficult to keep weight off. It’s in a lot of ways it, it’s more challenging than losing the weight. You know, you have to live differently for the rest of your life. You can’t go back to the, the way you were before. Cause the weight’s just waiting to come back on. It’s never really –

Rita Black: Yeah, I know. Well, I mean, and we are, I know you are still on your weight release journey down the scale, but I’d like to think that the work that you’re doing now is gonna lay the foundation for an easier maintenance. I, but I agree with, I do think so, but I agree with you that I think where we’re led astray with just the dieting culture. I don’t need to blame the industry, but we, I think we think we’re fed this fairytale idea that we’ll lose the weight. It comes off and then, you know, we can go back to eating the way we were or that we’re magically cured. Whereas weight management is a lifelong relationship with yourself in a different way. You know, where you’re advocating for yourself more, taking better care of yourself. And you’re also, you are also managing something.

Rita Black: And I think something you mentioned, cause we talk about skinny people and skinny people envy. But you know, I have said this to many people that we, I think we think too that the other person, we make the skinny other person into this, you know, person who’s lucky cause they don’t have to manage their weight. But many, many people who are average weight or even thin are focusing on their weight in some way. I think it’s an illusion that you know, that, oh, I have to go on a diet, I have to lose weight. These other people are lucky. And I think that does us wrong because then it makes us feel even more like the outsider, even more like we’re, there’s something lacking in us rather than the fact, the sheer fact that even beyond the diet industry, the food industry which is out of control is, you know we live in a world full of food, full of food choices and a lot of those choices do our health harm, but they also addict our brains to the food.

Rita Black: And even then, people, even if their metabolisms are blessed, they feel addicted to food because they’re continuing to eat. Anyway, I could go on for it, but that’s, that’s not what this, this is about you. But I did want, because I know for you, it’s been painful and it’s, and you have felt like an outsider and you have felt like, you know, it’s, there’s something wrong. And I definitely felt that way on my own painful struggles. So now let me ask you, how did you find out about the shift, the Shift Weight Mastery Process?

Michele Acerra: On Facebook. A friend of mine posted a link and she didn’t send it to me in particular. She just posted it in general about you know, the free webinar that you do as an introductory, it’s about a two hour thing. And it looked interesting. And as I told you, I didn’t even tell her I was going to join because if I went in and I didn’t like it, I would’ve just, you know, gracefully backed out and not had to not tell her about it. So I did check it out and I, as I said, she’s someone who’s opinion I really valued. So I went through the free webinar and I, it sounded, it really sounded intriguing.

Rita Black: Had you ever done hypnosis before? Like had you ever been exposed to –

Michele Acerra: No, I never did hypnosis.

Rita Black: And what, what did you think about hypnosis? Like what, was that kind of a weird idea to you?

Michele Acerra: When I first heard that there was hypnosis involved, I had this, you know, magical thinking going on that yeah, okay, the hypnosis is gonna to trick my body into losing weight.

Rita Black: Right.

Michele Acerra: I don’t have to do anything except follow the hypnotic singles, whatever they are. Of course that’s not what it was, but it does help you focus, you know, it sort of makes you pay attention to yourself more. You know? You have to give into it to start off with, you know, you have to sort of surrender a little bit in the beginning, but then what it does, it makes you more in control of yourself.

Rita Black: Right. More engaged.

Michele Acerra: You’re much more laser focused on what’s going on and how you’re influencing your environment and what you do.

Rita Black: Yeah.

Michele Acerra: That’s what I find anyway.

Rita Black: Yeah. I agree with you. I feel like it gives you sort of an edge and also an awareness and a mindfulness and it allows you to connect more deeply with yourself and your true goals and right desires. Were you worried about the safety of hypnosis at all or were you not? That wasn’t a big –

Michele Acerra: No, I wasn’t.

Rita Black: Okay. Well, so during the 30-day process, how and well over the 30 days, and you know, getting going on a weight, so the difference between like a diet and a weight mastery journey, like what was that like in that first 30 days for you?

Michele Acerra: It was, it was intensive. I felt like I was doing something with it almost every day. Involved in something. There’s so much material, you know, both online Facebook and your involvement is really integral to me. I mean, I was surprised how much personal involvement you had in the whole process. Pleasantly surprised.

Rita Black: Aw.

Michele Acerra: I tried to take advantage of all the materials every day, you know, the daily emails, the meditations, the hypnosis. It’s almost as though the eating was, was almost secondary. The eating obviously, had to eat within a certain amount of calories per day. And you know, in the beginning when I heard calories I was like, oh no, not calories.

Rita Black: Yeah. I don’t know why I remember your, well, a lot of people are resistant to the idea of tuning into your energy intake in and out, that when we kind of really look at it from a cognitive perspective. I don’t know. That was, I mean, I think you found it more empowering than disempowering ultimately.

Michele Acerra: Yeah, it’s very helpful. You know what I found it the most helpful on days when I decided like on Christmas day, I’m going to eat more on Christmas day. Well, 2000 calories is what I have to eat if I wanna maintain my weight. I ate 2000 calories every day for seven days. Theoretically I should be the same weight at the end of the seven days. Now I’m not gonna do that for seven days, but I’m gonna do it today. And it takes away the the guilt. It takes away the feeling that you did something wrong. You made a conscious decision that I’m not going to lose weight today, but I’m gonna be losing weight overall.

Rita Black: Well, I think it puts you in the driver’s seat of your weight release. Right. So you get to make the choices of how much, how quickly you wanna release, you know, because ultimately, again, I think I go back to that idea of dieting where it’s like, okay, I’ve gotta lose two pounds a week or a pound a week and if I don’t eat in this specific way, that won’t happen. So our brain is then forced into this good or bad, on or off. Like, oh, I was good today, I was bad today. Rather than I’m choosing to release a pound this week. I’m choosing to release two pounds this week. I can make that happen. I am in the driver’s seat. I know what to do. I can, because I think we forget that this is a long-term journey and there are gonna be weeks where you go traveling, right.

Rita Black: You travel and you, you don’t necessarily wanna release weight. You wanna, but you also wanna know how much you can eat and not gain weight. And I think we take away that power when we just are like, well, I just wanna, you know, like, I don’t wanna think about that. I don’t wanna have to worry about that. So, but I do think it also, it’s kind of like a budget. You get used to it. You get used to what you need and what you don’t need, and it helps you be aware. So I think, I think that’s great that you had that transition because I do think it makes you more of an inner scientist. It’s it, when we put it in the perspective of being a scientist rather than a diet or people get it a lot more quickly. So how is it being an apprentice of weight mastery rather than struggling? I mean, how has it helped you overcome obstacles, having that apprentice mindset?

Michele Acerra: Well, you know, I never, I didn’t consider myself an apprentice at losing weight. I thought I was an old hand at losing weight. You know, I knew every, I could have told you the calories of everything without looking it up, but I wasn’t any success at it or any lasting success anyway. It’s more being an apprentice of learning to think critically about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it and how you can change your behaviors. I know that sounds very new age but it’s, it’s really –

Rita Black: No, it doesn’t, it sounds very levelheaded.

Michele Acerra: Right. Yesterday was my, as I told you, my daughter’s birthday and, you know, we brought a birthday cake and in the restaurant they cut up the birthday cake and they put this piece of birthday cake in front of me. That was enough. You know, it was way too big. And I was able to just cut it in half, eat it, and then sit there and say, yeah, I had enough birthday cake that wasn’t, it was delicious. I had enough and I just pushed the rest away. I wouldn’t have done that before. I would’ve decided, okay, today I’m gonna have a piece of birthday cake. And no matter how big it was when they put it in front of me, I would’ve eaten the whole thing. So that was, that was a major thing for me.

Rita Black: I’m very proud of you.

Michele Acerra: Well, thank you.

Rita Black: That is great. Where have you been surprised in your ability to be consistent? Where, you know, in the past you felt like you were on something off, you know, Weight Watchers, like –

Michele Acerra: Definitely, definitely the exercise. I’m actually shocked that I don’t think I’ve missed a day of exercise except for the week when I had COVID back in December. I have exercised every single day since then. It’s become second nature, I’m retired now, so I do have more time. I don’t have to worry about getting to work in the morning. So if I get up at, even if I get up at eight o’clock, like a little bit late, I just get on my exercise bike and I’m, you know, reading the newspaper or watching you know, the news or listening to one of your podcasts and just peddling away. Then the hour goes by, do an hour every morning. And I think it’s been extremely helpful.

Rita Black: That’s amazing. Yeah. I think it is. It’s something, it just is, again, I think so much of dieting is, we’re focused on exercise and food, like it’s outside of us. And when you are really in control of your journey, it becomes something who you are, oh, I’m somebody who gets up and exercises for an hour in the morning.

Michele Acerra: Absolutely. Absolutely. I don’t even think about it. Even on days when I think I’m not going to wanna exercise, I exercise. It’s just what I do when I get up in the morning.

Rita Black: That’s so cool. Here’s a question I have for you because I know you have a family, a big family. Five kids. I’m like still in awe, but, and you’ve been married for 47 years. Congratulations. That’s almost 47 years. That’s huge. But so yeah, you have people around you, you have grandchildren, you have a lot of people. How did you get them to support you and, and how has that been like? I’m curious because a lot of people struggle with support.

Michele Acerra: I’ve had no problem with people supporting me. You know, I’m the cook in the house for one thing. Nobody pushes food on me. Never has really really the one who, who, you know, brought in the sweets and baked the breads and the cookies and all that. I never had issue with people supporting me. I picked the restaurants, as I told you, if we’re going out, I look at the menu and I say, okay, this is it. They sort of count on me to pick the restaurants. They always did.

Rita Black: You know, we have a couple who lives on our block. My husband is like the mayor of our neighborhood. He, you know, walks her dog every day and he’s like, he talks to everybody and there’s this couple and they’re happily married. And he’s like, what’s the secret to your happy marriage? And a man says, well, she gets to make all the decisions, but I have just a couple of rules. Let the wife make all the decisions. That’s, that’s a, that’s a good one. So, but so your husband and your children and your grandchildren, you know, when you started embarking upon this journey, were they supportive? Were they, you know, are they, have they become your cheerleaders? Are they, or they’re just like, yeah, whatever. I think

Michele Acerra: They’re all telling me how good I look, how I, you know, I’ve lost 34 pounds since October, so everyone is impressed. I mean, I’m impressed with myself.

Rita Black: Have you gotten a lot of people saying, wow, you look great, to you, other than your family too?

Michele Acerra: A lot of people. We went to my sister-in-law’s house last month, and his aunt was there and she said, wow, what have you done? You look wonderful.

Rita Black: Wow. So, and how, and you like that you, you don’t mind when people pay attention to you. Okay, good for you. That’s awesome. Sometimes people struggle with that, but I’m glad you don’t. And if I wish you could see Michele , she’s so beautiful. She’s wearing this beautiful red shirt. She looks just so great. So now how confident do you feel about keeping on going, keeping on this journey?

Michele Acerra: I feel more confident than I’ve ever felt before. Where I want it to end, I can’t say yet, as I told you, I think when I get there, I’ll know. I wanna get to a weight where I feel comfortable and where I can comfortably maintain it. That’s, you know, maybe it’s another 35 pounds, maybe it’s another 45 pounds, we shall say.

Rita Black: That’s smart.

Michele Acerra: I think I can keep it up. I’m very encouraged by the fact that I was able to enjoy things that I like to enjoy and continue on the journey without really feeling like it was a setback in any way. Like I said, Thanksgiving day, Christmas day, New Year’s Day, my children’s birthday yesterday, I enjoyed them all those occasions while I’m still, you know, dropping weight and it doesn’t have to be, you know, oh, I can never eat this or I could never eat that. Maybe you can never read it all on the same day. But if you, if you do want to enjoy something, it can be done. As long as you work your plan.

Rita Black: I love that. I think that’s so true. And oh, not all, I loved how you said that, how you can have it and you can make it happen for yourself, but maybe not all in the way it used to happen. but it, but, but the way it used to happen ended up usually making us feel sick or out of balance or what have you, that’s what I’ve learned is that when you can have that half of a piece of birthday cake or you can have that you know, bowl of chips and just eat it and enjoy it and be very mindful of it, you get so much more out of it than you do rushing through it, feeling guilty, feeling bad, or feeling totally disconnected from it. So I know you’ve really taken on to cooking and being creative with you know, the way you’ve eaten. And I think that’s really helpful as well. You know, you’ve kind of invested in being, you know, finding weight. And you found ways to —

Michele Acerra: It’s challenging, you know, to try to cook things that you enjoy and that everyone else is going to enjoy because I’m not cooking five different meals for everyone. I, whatever I cook is what everyone eats and no one’s complained yet.

Rita Black: You’ve also just, you know, challenged yourself to, like you said, make something that was maybe an unhealthy addition to a healthier version of it. And that’s, you’ve done a great job doing that. And I think it’s important for people to know that’s possible. I think a lot of people do think like they have to eat their diet food and then the rest of the family can eat whatever they want rather than thinking of it holistically. Like –

Michele Acerra: It’s not sustainable to do that.

Rita Black: It’s not.

Michele Acerra: It’s just not sustainable.

Rita Black: And even if people in our families don’t struggle with weight, they can all benefit from eating more healthfully. I mean that’s, that’s the truth because, you know, they might not be struggling today. There’s such a thing and it’s getting very huge as thin people being over fat on the inside. Like, so they might not weigh it, but their fat ratio. So even though they might not be overtly overweight their health is in jeopardy due to, you know, an unhealthy diet. And not, and lack of exercise. So you are probably an amazing role model for your grandchildren, for your daughters, for your sons, you know, for all of your children.

Rita Black: So one last question, Michele, you’ve been so generous with all of your information. What advice would you give to someone who wanted to take their first steps forward as far as like just taking, you know, taking back their health and, you know, going on their own Weight Master Journey.

Michele Acerra: Well take it one step at a time. Be mindful, enlist your family and your friends to be your allies. You know, nothing is absolute, you, so many times you think, I could never have a piece of cake until I lose 45 pounds. Well, yes you can. Don’t give the food so much power. You’re the one with the power.

Rita Black: I love that. What great advice. Well, Michele , thank you so much for being on the Thin Thinking Podcast. It’s been such a joy, and, such a joy to have you in our community.

Michele Acerra: Thank you. I’m enjoying it a lot. I really am enjoying it.

Rita Black: Well, thank you for being here. Thank you, Michele , so much for taking the time to share your inspiring story with us. And just a reminder, it’s coming up. This date is coming up. So get in the Wednesday, April 26th, 2023 masterclass. It’s free. It’s called How to Break Through the Weight Struggle Cycle So That You Can Release Weight Consistently and Permanently. I look forward to this class. We’re gonna do one at 9:00 AM Pacific time and 5:00 PM Pacific Time. So hopefully we’re getting all of you in the UK and Australia covered as well. And it’s absolutely free. The link is in the show notes. Come join us. It’s going to be an amazing masterclass. And speaking of amazing, have a wonderful week and remember that the key and probably the only key to unlocking the door of the wait struggle is inside you. So keep listening and find it.

Rita Black: You wanna dive deeper into the mindset of long-term weight release, head on over to www.shiftweight mastery.com. That’s www.shiftweightmastery.com, where you’ll find numerous tools and resources to help you unlock your mind for permanent weight release tips, strategies, and more. And be sure to check the show notes to learn more about my book From Fat to Thin Thinking. Unlock Your Mind for Permanent Weight Loss.

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