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Happy Thanksgiving! 

Let’s be honest for a moment…
This weekend is basically the Olympics of old family patterns, emotional eating triggers, and conversations you definitely did not sign up for—sprinkled, of course, with a little gratitude.

So I thought: What better time to share something powerful I brought home from Tony Robbins’ Unleash the Power Within last month?

If Tony can get people walking on fire (yes, including me!), then surely we can get through Thanksgiving without diving headfirst into the stuffing bowl.

In this week’s podcast episode, I’m breaking down one of the simplest yet most transformative reminders Tony shared during UPW. It’s something you’re already doing moment by moment, whether you realize it or not:

**You are always making three decisions that shape everything—

your day, your mood, your body, your choices… and ultimately, how you feel inside your own skin.**

These three decisions influence whether you end the day feeling aligned and powerful—or frazzled and frustrated.

In the episode, I walk you through Tony’s “Three Decisions,” and then, because I love you and I want you to have the calmest, most grounded, gratitude-filled holiday possible… I guide you through a special Thanksgiving version.

Think of it as emotional Spanx— It holds you together and smooths everything out. 

This is your chance to shift your focus, choose better meaning, and take actions that support you feeling like the healthiest, happiest version of yourself… even in the middle of holiday chaos.

So take a deep breath. Drop your shoulders. Release the neck tension you’ve already built up just thinking about Thursday…

And come on in.

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And if you want some more healthy Thanksgiving tips, check out my
previous Thanksgiving episode here!

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

How the three decisions you make moment-by-moment—about focus, meaning, and action—completely determine how you experience your day and whether you feel aligned and powerful.

How to shift your focus from what’s missing or broken to what’s working and what you can control, especially during high-stress holiday gatherings.

A guided Thanksgiving meditation to help you choose empowering meanings, set clear intentions, and show up as your highest self this weekend.

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Rita Black: Happy Thanksgiving. Okay. Let’s be honest for a moment. This weekend is basically the Olympics of old family patterns, emotional eating triggers and conversations you didn’t sign up for sprinkled, of course, with some gratitude. So I thought, what better time to use the wisdom I just soaked up at Tony Robbins Unleashed the Power Within about a month ago.

Rita Black: If Tony can get people walking on fire, including yours, truly, surely we can get through Thanksgiving without diving headfirst into the stuffing bowl. So today, I wanna share something incredibly powerful and incredibly simple that Tony reminded me of at U PW .

Rita Black: That’s the abbreviated version of Unleash the Power Within, and that is you are always making three decisions moment by [00:01:00] moment that totally shape how your day goes, how your body feels and whether you end the day feeling aligned with yourself and powerful. So I’m gonna walk you through Tony’s three decisions, and then because I love you and I want you to have the calmest, most grounded and gratitude filled holiday possible, I’m going to guide you through a special Thanksgiving version. Think of it as emotional spanx. It holds you together and smooths everything out. This is your moment to shift your focus, choose better meaning, and take actions that support you feeling like the healthiest, happiest version of yourself.

Rita Black: Alright, friends, take a deep breath. Release the neck tension you’ve already built up just thinking about the holiday and come on in.[00:02:00]

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Rita Black: And not only have I helped thousands of people over the past 20 years achieve long-term weight mastery. I am also a former weight struggler, carb addict and binge eater, and after two decades of failed diets and fad weight loss programs, I lost 40 pounds with the help of hypnosis, not only did I release all that weight, I have kept it off for 25.

Rita Black: Enter the Thin Thinking Podcast, where you too will [00:03:00] learn how to remove the mental roadblocks that keep you struggling. I’ll give you the thin thinking tools, skills, and insights to help you develop the mindset you need, not only to achieve your ideal weight, but to stay there long term and live your best life.

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Rita Black: Hello. Hello. I am grateful for you. Come on in. Hello and gratitude. Gratitude to all of our thin thinking community. I know you, Canadians had your Thanksgiving a few weeks ago, and I know down under it. It’s coming on summer. But if you’re here in the us, it’s winter. And if you’re listening to this as it drops, it’s Thanksgiving weekend coming up.

Rita Black: And I just want to tell you how grateful I am for you being part of our community. I [00:04:00] think of how we started this podcast in my closet. During the pandemic and how we reach now a global audience of listeners who come from all over, hello to everybody out there together to align ourselves more powerfully with our mindset, weight, self-care our relationship with our bodies and ourselves.

Rita Black: And so much more. So thank you. I am so grateful for you and what we have created together and the conversation we continue to have. So just take a deep breath. And be here now be present in your body. Just take a moment, close your eyes, and just be here. Now we’re gonna do more of this later.

Rita Black: Let’s just take a moment. I know if you are here if you are like me Wednesday is my big cooking day and we’re having Thanksgiving with our friends. I am getting [00:05:00] things organized today as well. But I always like to share. In the past on other podcasts around Thanksgiving, I share, I have shared Thanksgiving strategies for being healthy, tactics and tips, which are great.

Rita Black: So if you want to have those. Because I don’t feel like I need to repeat myself every year. Go back and listen the to episode 1 94. That has a great set of, preparation for Thanksgiving, how to manage yourself at Thanksgiving dinner, all that stuff. I really dive into the do’s and don’t. So that’s a great one.

Rita Black: But I, today I wanted to just go a little deeper and get more into the alignment with real, the, really the focus and really where we’re putting our energy this weekend. Because I, for one, know that for me, how I walk into a [00:06:00] Thanksgiving or any sort of social event where I’m putting my focus really depends makes the difference on how I take care of myself in that situation.

Rita Black: Last month I went to Tony Robbins, unleashed the power within. Wow. That was. Quite extraordinary and if you have been to this event, it’s like a rock concert meets a transformational processes, many transformational processes meet meets like Totally. I felt I don’t do drugs or anything, but.

Rita Black: I felt like I was on drugs the entire weekend. ’cause you’re just in this peak emotional state all weekend long. Wow. And I had to crack up because there were people in line, to get food and stuff who were saying, oh, were you at Tony Robbins and Le the Power in Berlin last month people travel around the world to, to go to this [00:07:00] event.

Rita Black: More than once or twice. There are people who have been to, UPW is what they call it dozens of times. And I understand why, because it is, it’s a bit of a high, it’s a bit of a dopamine hit over a four day period. I was like I’m good though. I’m good. So I took my friend who was having a really rough year and her father died, and just all these things are happening in her life, and I said, you know what?

Rita Black: She’s a therapist, but she has never been to a tra, through a transformational process. I was like, you are coming. To LA and we are gonna do this together. And and so we did and she left so happy. She, really she got it. She was a little resistant about doing the fire walking.

Rita Black: She was like, Rita, I think I’m just gonna stand on the sidelines while everybody else firewalk and I’m just not, and I said, listen, this is like a recipe. You don’t leave out one of the main [00:08:00] ingredients. And she said okay, I’ll do it. And she was so glad she did. I could talk forever about it, but I’d rather just give you some of the, and even if you’ve done UPWI, I think these things you can always, obviously if people go to his experience more than once, they go back to relearn these things over and over again.

Rita Black: We can always have our brains refreshed on things, can’t we? Yeah, so Tony Robbins, he’s part motivational speaker, part rock and roll, star and shaman, and oh my God, he had dancers up on stage with him and me and my friend were cracking up and a dj that just was unbelievable. It really was like music and dancing meets transformational processes.

Rita Black: I never been to anything like that. I totally was inspired to, I said, I’ve gotta do this now. But we were guided through all different sorts of tools and exercises and emotional states. We spent time [00:09:00] identifying what truly drives us, what holds us back, and what we want our life to look like moving forward.

Rita Black: And and let’s not forget walking on the hot coals, which was super interesting. I could not believe we were in a stadium with 12,000 other people. That’s why I felt like it was like a rock concert. It was a stadium and they were able to move 12,000 people out into this parking lot where they had 40.

Rita Black: I think 40 coal, coal, where you walk on the coals. 40 of those. It was like, I joked to my friend, I was like, this is like the McDonald’s of transformational experiences because like literally it was like fast food, like everybody being. Herded into walking over these hot coals, and it wasn’t that bad, we really did spend probably three hours getting into a state where we walked across the coals and we had a champ that we said to ourselves, A cool mosque, cool [00:10:00] mosques, which was able to get our brain into the state telling our subconscious that we were, walking on cool moss.

Rita Black: And it was really interesting because it really didn’t feel that hot. There were a couple of times where I was like. Ouch. But it was very quick. And then you get to the other side, they douse your feet off and then off you go and you’ve walked on hot coals. You feel like you’re, you’re something special for a very short time.

Rita Black: But anyway it was very cool to be afraid to do it anyway and to move across the hot coals. Okay, but enough about me and the hot coals. I wanna talk about you. And your your weekend experience. So the coming up to Thanksgiving and I’ll be sharing a lot more, I’m sure about my experience ’cause I did take a lot away which was useful and we could totally apply it to weight Mastery.

Rita Black: So we will. But I just wanna give you a little tidbit for today because I know you’re busy and you wanna get going, but I [00:11:00] wanted to leave you with some. Something powerful for the weekend ahead. Where you can align and fill up with gratitude rather than carbs. So I’m gonna do this.

Rita Black: What I’m gonna do is I’m gonna walk you through. The three decisions Tony thinks we are making all the time that determine how you basically experience your life. And then I am going to guide you through my Thanksgiving version of this so you can feel emotionally aligned and prepared for a gratitude filled weekend ahead.

Rita Black: And by the way, just as a quick plug our, I don’t want you to miss out on this if you are interested because our emotional eating toolkit is half price. We are doing, a Black Friday thing. So if you go in to the link, you can get. Emotional eating toolkit is a collection of coaching hypnosis sessions and [00:12:00] meditations focused on managing emotional eating or really healing the emotional eating patterns, understanding them how to prepare yourself.

Rita Black: Prepare your mind and be so much of. Managing emotional eating is prevention, so there’s a lot of coaching and there’s hypnosis and just getting to learn to really feel your emotions and creating a safe space for that rather than eating over them. I hope that makes sense. And then the social eating toolkit is also it’s like $45 off.

Rita Black: It’s $80 off the price. The emotional eating toolkit, I believe is 77, marked down from 1 47. And I think, don’t quote me on this, but I know it is $80 off and I know it’s $97, so it must mean it’s. 180 7. I’m really bad at math. But anyway there are meditations, hypnosis sessions, and coaching on [00:13:00] managing yourself at parties even after parties, sometimes, we’ll, I used to be a big binger after I went to a party.

Rita Black: Social drinking, saboteurs all of those things are covered in this. People love the social eating toolkit. I feel very confident saying, I think you’ll get a lot out of it because I’ve had so many people say that social eating toolkit. Is a gold mine of information and transformation around the social eating world, the world of social eating and managing ourselves.

Rita Black: So check it out, the links are in the show notes. See if it’s something that you might, that might help you. Okay, so let’s hop into it. The three decisions. So Tony teaches at every moment, whether consciously or unconsciously, you are making three decisions that determine the meaning you give any experience, and therefore how you feel, what you do, and ultimately who you become.[00:14:00]

Rita Black: And these three decisions shape your entire destiny. So let’s go through them. Decision one is, what am I going to focus on? And basically where focus goes, energy flows. Haven’t you noticed that? And that’s something that, you’ve probably heard if you are Tony Robbins fan and know Tony Robbins, he says this all the time where focus goes, he, and then everybody in the audience goes.

Rita Black: Energy flows. Your focus determines how you feel instantly. Haven’t you noticed that? What are you focusing on right now? And notice what that feeling creates in your body and now maybe focus on something different. And notice, just like shifting your focus changes not only what you’re thinking about what, but your, how your body feels.

Rita Black: So for example. If I’m focusing on exercise let me think about I’m gonna put this in the weight mastery perspective. If I’m focusing on [00:15:00] exercising and my mind goes to, ugh, I gotta put on the exercise clothes and then I’m gonna be sweating and and that’s not gonna feel good. And it’s gonna take time.

Rita Black: There’s, how does that make my body feel and how does that make my brain feel? If it makes me feel like, Ugh, I don’t wanna exercise, it would be just more comfortable just to stay on the couch and stay home. So that’s what I would call, and, maybe a negative focus, but what if I shifted my focus and I thought about how I was gonna feel?

Rita Black: As I’m exercising my body connected with my brain feeling good, that feel good in my body, that energy flowing through my body, how would I feel after that exercise is over that feeling of vibrancy or that little light sweat or heavy sweat feeling that you totally used your body, the blood coursing through your veins, your [00:16:00] heart pumping, feeling alive.

Rita Black: All of that totally changes just that this very same thing, exercise, right? So how you’re putting your focus on something just changes how you relate to it completely. Haven’t you ever noticed how two people can live the same experience and have a totally different emotional reaction simply because they focus?

Rita Black: On different aspects of it. So you can choose what to focus on what you have or what’s missing, right? So that can be one thing you could focus on. It’s what do I have? And this is something, especially for the holidays coming up, it’s like. What do I have or what’s missing? And when we focus on what’s missing, often we will feel deprived.

Rita Black: We will feel fear sometimes. Like with releasing weight all the time. I see there’s. People who are, when they think of re releasing weight or [00:17:00] losing weight, they feel like, oh my gosh, I’m going to be deprived because I’m not gonna be able to have certain foods. Or you can look at it like, wow, I can have all this amazing healthy food that allows my body to feel vibrant and better.

Rita Black: Feeding it in this way, releasing weight, feeling lighter. But still figuring out how to have treats. So it’s not like it’s all or nothing. You can see how you frame things to yourself, and we talk about framing, but how you focus as part of framing. Like what, how are you framing your reality now to yourself?

Rita Black: Is it making you feel good or bad, or somewhere in between? And you can also focus on what you can control or what you can’t control. And especially, coming up in the holidays, other people or the environment, so often we can fall into being victims, and say everybody’s gonna be serving amazing [00:18:00] Thanksgiving food.

Rita Black: And I, and that’s, I’m gonna be deprived because of that. Everybody is going to, people talk about being sabotaged, all that stuff. But really you can control yourself, right? You can control, and I don’t mean just like controlling yourself in the moment with regards to willpower, but you have the ability to prepare yourself before you walk into any situation.

Rita Black: And I say this over and over again to students. It’s preparation is. 80% of anything with regards to weight management being prepared, especially going to social events. It is such a big part of it. You can prepare and to make healthy choices, and you can bring healthy dishes if you don’t feel like anybody’s gonna be cooking anything healthy don’t be a victim.

Rita Black: Bring something and people will love you for it. Bring a vegetable platter or bring your. If Aunt Millie is serving the [00:19:00] horrible green beans with the onions on top the crunchy onions, you can bring a healthy version of it. And I will tell you, you won’t be the only one there wanting to eat that.

Rita Black: Because people want to be healthy. Okay? And you can also focus on what’s working or what’s broken. We can always look at what is broken. So many of us focus on. What we are doing wrong rather than acknowledging and reinforcing what we’re doing. Like again, with Weight Mastery, I see it all the time.

Rita Black: We can let the scale tell us if we are good or bad, and we can look at that as oh it didn’t go down or it went up, and so I’m broken and it’s broken and it’s all horrible and awful. Rather than focusing on. All the value you are bringing to your journey of weight mastery, all the behaviors you’re doing, all the new skills you’re building, our mind will just love, love, love to go to the negative stuff.

Rita Black: And so we have to be disciplined about [00:20:00] where we put our focus because our natural tendency. Is to go to the negative. That’s just the way our brains are wired from a survival standpoint. So we need to be the curators of our own thoughts and really, especially during the holidays when there’s extra stress and emotions and even subconscious triggers from the past ex, really basically guiding us through our experience. We wanna be aware of this before heading in so that we can curate a more powerful experience of the holidays for ourself. I hope that makes sense. So your brain is always scanning for meaning, but you decide what gets your attention. So practice this.

Rita Black: Ask yourself, what am I focusing on right now with regards to my weight journey? Am I a victim of my weight struggle or am I a powerful apprentice of weight mastery? [00:21:00] And is this focus empowering me or draining me? Is this focus empowering me or draining me? What else could I focus on that would create a better outcome?

Rita Black: So those are really great questions to be asking yourself. So that’s the first decision, is what am I focusing or what am I gonna focus on? So powerful. So the second decision is, what does this mean? What does this mean? The meaning you assign to a situation determines your emotional state and meaning is always a choice, not a fact, but a lot of us are in the habit of giving a negative.

Rita Black: Meaning to things. For example, just the difference. This challenge is here to break me, oh my God, this is so hard I can’t do [00:22:00] this. Which is, we’re giving a meaning to this and it’s a disempowered, meaning it’s a stuck. Meaning, and again, and no fault of yours, our brain has just, from being in the weight struggle, gotten into the habit of doing this.

Rita Black: So we have to be careful when we’re feeling these feelings and giving it this meaning to go, wait a minute, I’m assigning it this meeting, but I can make it mean something different. And one option would be this challenge is here to grow me. I can be empowered, I can be resourceful, and of course you can.

Rita Black: I remember a client telling me that, one of her mentors, uses OFG opportunity for growth and everything is just this filter she uses in her life. No matter how what’s going on is an OFG. Opportunity. So you know, if you can think about that. OFG. [00:23:00] I think that can help. With regards to people, again, we are going to be in with maybe more people over the holidays and we can often get triggered from our family and friends.

Rita Black: We, what is the meaning that we give what people are saying to us? Is this person disrespecting me? Is this person embarrassing me? Is this person trying to sabotage me? We can res we, we can give it an an anger or meaning. We can get angry really quickly if we make it mean something negative.

Rita Black: Or maybe, and this is what I like to do, is if somebody says something snarky to you or disrespectful or mean spirited. And I will, I like to think about wow. If they’re saying that to me. Then you know how we can be [00:24:00] three times, five times, 10 times more cruel to ourselves than we are to other people?

Rita Black: For the most part. I was like, wow. If they’re saying that to me, I think about how they’re speaking to themselves. So I always. Say this person is scared and hurting, and that just gives me that distance and compassion for them and separates me out. And I’m not saying I’m trying to be a saint. I want to have a powerful experience of that so I don’t get hooked.

Rita Black: And then I don’t spend the rest of the evening sitting and simmering in resentment because I know from personal, experienced people, resentment is one of the most fattening of all the emotions. Are you? And I bet you’re nodding your head right? So having that frame on things, it’s a lot more slimming.

Rita Black: Take my word for it. Alright, so Tony says, nothing in life has meaning except the meaning you give it. So practice, ask [00:25:00] yourself, is there a more empowering meaning that I could give to this? Or what else could this mean? Or what meaning leads me to become who I want to be. I love that. Okay, so the third decision is what am I gonna do?

Rita Black: What am I gonna do? What action am I gonna take? Or inaction? And whatever action or inaction you take creates your. Results. So after you choose your focus and meaning you decide your behavior, will I take action or will I stay passive? Will I move forward, or will I pull back? Will I communicate powerfully or will I shut down?

Rita Black: Showing. Will I show up with courage or will I show up with fear? Remember, [00:26:00] and this is very helpful, the Tony didn’t say this but I’m saying this to you. Remember that all growth is just outside your current zone of comfort. All growth is just outside. Your current zone of comfort, Tony emphasizes that emotion creates motion.

Rita Black: So your chosen meaning influences what you feel you are capable of doing. I’ll repeat that. Tony emphasizes that emotion creates motion. So your chosen meaning influences what you feel capable of doing. So always be mindful. Of that meaning that you’re giving things so ways you can practice, ask yourself what’s the next action that aligns with my highest self, and I love that.

Rita Black: Putting our minds and our focus on what is that highest self me. [00:27:00] Going to do, or, a lot of my students we talk about that. What is my me at my ideal weight? What would they do in this situation? And it helps our brain just think about identity and who we are being. Here’s another one.

Rita Black: What can I do right now to move forward? What can I do right now to move forward? Last one, what would I do if I were already confident and certain I love that? What would I do if I was already confident and certain? So we’re putting ourselves in at that focus on the emotional state of confident and certain what would I do if I felt confident and certain.

Rita Black: So putting this all together, every moment of your life can be reshaped by visiting these three questions. What am I gonna focus on? What meaning am I assigning to this and what am I gonna do as a result? If you change [00:28:00] these three decisions, you change your state, you change your behavior, and ultimately you change your entire life.

Rita Black: Alright, so now my friends, let’s move on. And I just wanna walk you through. A meditation for Thanksgiving or if Thanksgiving has come and gone, just this is just a great thing for this coming weekend or anytime, really. It doesn’t have to be about Thanksgiving, so just wherever you are, if you’re sitting somewhere comfortably and you are not driving, so please do not do this while you are driving.

Rita Black: If you wanna pull over, you can, or just save this for later. Take a nice deep breath in. And as you exhale, close your eyes and just bring your attention within and just focus on all the sensations within your body. [00:29:00] Notice any sensations of lightness. Are there areas of heaviness you feel a tingling feeling anywhere?

Rita Black: You feel hot or cold, just notice all the different sensations and take a nice deep breath in and send a wave of relaxation to that part of your body that needs it the most. And as you continue to relax, just put your attention and focus on the beating of your heart.

Rita Black: And the rising and falling of your diaphragm and chest as you breathe in and breathe out

Rita Black: good. And now just focus on the surface that is supporting you fully

Rita Black: and [00:30:00] notice how it does support you fully. And you can allow that to signal to your subconscious mind that you can relax even more deeply. Good. And notice the texture and temperature of whatever is up against your feet, even if it’s the air. And notice the texture and temperature of whatever is just in the room around you, the air and the room around you.

Rita Black: Good. And now we’re gonna walk through the three decisions and direct them towards the weekend ahead.

Rita Black: All right. Decision one, what am I gonna focus on? So as you think about the weekend ahead, notice what your mind automatically focuses on. Is it the [00:31:00] people you’ll see? Is it the conversations you wanna have? Is it the stress of the weekend or the logistics of the weekend? Is it the meals or the traditions, or even the memories?

Rita Black: Is it the emotions? Is there excitement or tension, joy or overwhelm? Just take a moment and gently shift your focus to something empowering.

Rita Black: Good. And now ask yourself. What do I want to appreciate this weekend?

Rita Black: [00:32:00] Who do I want to connect with more deeply?

Rita Black: What moments do I want to fully experience?

Rita Black: What do I want to give energetically, emotionally and spiritually?

Rita Black: What do I want to feel grateful for?

Rita Black: Good. And I’ll just choose one thing of all of those. That instantly uplifts your energy, something powerful that makes you feel good, and bring that focus into your mind. Just focus on that and perhaps put your hand over your heart [00:33:00] and just notice how when you hold that in your mind, how your body responds and just allow yourself to feel that feeling fully as you continue to focus on it in your mind.

Rita Black: Yes, that’s it. Just allow yourself to feel it as you focus on it. That nice feeling, that gratitude. Just notice how it fills you up and take a nice deep breath in and bring that inside you deeply, allowing that to fill you up. Good. Decision number two, what meaning am I giving this weekend? Now bring to mind the meaning you’ve been attaching to Thanksgiving or the weekend ahead.

Rita Black: Is it a time of joy?[00:34:00]

Rita Black: Is it a time of stress? Is it an obligation? Or does it mean togetherness? Does it mean healing or chaos or connection, whatever meaning has been on the surface. You now have the power to choose a more empowering one. Ask yourself what meaning would make this weekend easier? What meaning would make this weekend easier?

Rita Black: What meaning would make me feel more calm, loving, or strong?

Rita Black: What meaning would make me feel more calm, loving, or strong?

Rita Black: How [00:35:00] can I interpret challenges in a way that serves me? How can I interpret? Challenges in a way that serves me. Here are some examples of empowering meanings. This weekend is a chance to reconnect. This is an opportunity to practice love and presence. This is a time to appreciate what is good in my life.

Rita Black: This is a moment to reset my energy. This weekend is here to grow me and fill me. Okay, now choose your meaning. Now what? Meaning give you the most out of this weekend? Say it internally or out loud. This weekend is.[00:36:00]

Rita Black: Okay, say it again this weekend. Is

Rita Black: This weekend is good. And now bring that all inside. Putting your hand over your heart. Holding it in this weekend is.

Rita Black: And take another nice deep breath and bring that deep inside you. Just holding that in and letting that live right there inside of you. Okay, good. Now, last decision. What am I going to do? What am I going to do now? Based on your focus and meaning, decide who do you want to be this weekend? What actions match your highest self?

Rita Black: You can ask yourself, how do I want to show up [00:37:00] with friends and family?

Rita Black: Just think about that for a moment. How do I wanna show up with friends and family and just create a vision of that for yourself?

Rita Black: And how do I want us to handle stress or old patterns? Maybe think about something that has been stressful over the holidays in your past and think about a different way. Maybe just see yourself taking a breath instead of reacting, just taking a breath and shifting the focus, calming down, feeling more empowered.

Rita Black: What choices will make me feel proud afterwards? And this is easy to visualize if you think about making that healthy choice versus that tempting choice that might take you down that road of overeating or feeling bloated [00:38:00] afterwards. So what choices will make me feel proud afterwards?

Rita Black: What can I give? Can I give attention, patience, humor, presence,

Rita Black: choose three. Simple actions or intentions, tensions. For example, you could say, I’ll take a deep breath before responding during these tense moments.

Rita Black: Or I will look for small moments to appreciate, or I will stay present instead of getting pulled into old stories, or I will connect with one person more deeply. I will take a deep breath before [00:39:00] I begin eating. I will give kindness to others. Let these actions become a part of your identity for the weekend.

Rita Black: Okay, so now put your hands over your heart one last time and take that final breath in, taking these actions in within you and exhale slowly. Alright, my friend. You can go ahead and open your eyes and you are ready for this weekend, grounded, intentional, and in control of your meaning and your emotional state.

Rita Black: Great.

Rita Black: Oh I hope that served you and please feel free if you enjoy that, to use it a [00:40:00] couple of times throughout the weekend and have a great weekend. Whether you’re enjoying the Thanksgiving weekend or you’re just off or a fabulous. Autumn weekend or a wonderful late spring, early summer weekend, if you’re down under, I hope you have a wonderful weekend that you experience fully, you give amazing focus to wonderful meaning to, and follow through with powerful actions on and.

Rita Black: If you are interested, like I said, black Friday is here, and so just grab that emotional eating toolkit or that social eating toolkit or both of them. The links are in the show notes and I wish you a very gratitude, safe and healthy Thanksgiving weekend. Those of you experiencing it this weekend, and for those of you who have a safe and healthy weekend, and remember that the key and probably the only key.

Rita Black: To unlocking the [00:41:00] door of the weight struggle is inside you, so keep listening and find it. I will be with you here next week. Thanks for listening to the Thin Thinking Podcast. Did that episode go by way too fast for you? If so, and do you wanna dive deeper into the mindset of long-term weight release?

Rita Black: Head on over to www shift weight mastery.com. That’s www shift weight mastery.com, where you’ll find numerous tools and resources to help you unlock your mind for permanent weight release. Tips strategies and more. And be sure to check the show notes to learn more about my book from Fat to Thin Thinking.

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